Perspective: It's a Gift, Take It with You

With all the lists of tasks that the bride is responsible for, it is easy to see how one could become overwhelmed. But I would like to see one article address the topic of perspective with something more than just a off-the-cuff remark or pithy closing quotation. Even the main character in the "Sex and the City" movie admitted to getting caught up in the "me" moment of all the attention she was receiving.



Do I want my centerpieces to be enchanting? Yes. Do I want to make sure everyone receives an elegant invitation? Yes. (Would I love to be married in that Vivienne Westwood gown? Heck Ya.) Do I want to lose my sanity or any of my friends in the process? No!


How does one keep perspective in the midst of a task and taffeta maelstrom? Well, if you're paying attention, life will provide some reminders for you. From the loss of a loved one, to the unexpected unemployment line, earth-shaking news can reel you back down to planet earth. What I would love to do, is not leave earth in the first place. I like to remain grounded while letting my imagination soar.

I see these brides on the reality shows losing their cool and blowing up at their family members. Yes, their mothers, brothers, in-laws, etc. can pull some pretty low punches or scatterbrained moves, but what makes the difference between the bride who laughs vs. the bride who launches? Perspective. It's a gift. Take it with you and you'll walk away from "your day" just as married as the girl who lost her temper, but with a much better reputation.

Nobody wants to be "that girl" who has too much to drink and embarrasses herself in front of her friends. Bridal temper tantrums are no different. Even if you do fly off the handle, there's no rule that says you can't apologize. And, for no reason at all, why not email each person involved and just thank them for their help with your wedding, even if your paying them. Mainly, I'm speaking to myself. If anyone else happens to read this and agree, fantastic.